THE Wedding Morning
You’ve spent months, some of you years…and now the big day has finally arrived!
I have witnessed many morning flusters and many more last minute panics on the morning of a wedding day. So I thought I would write a short hints and tips guide, to help you prepare and retain it stress free.
Nerves do funny things to brides (AND bridesmaids), so you never really know just how you are going to be during the run up to it – never mind the actual day. The big picture is that you’ve got all your favourite people coming together for the best celebration ever, with your favourite suppliers from the wedding industry hired to help it run smoothly…
So the wedding day is here, sit back, play list on, relax, drink bubbly, make sure you eat something and take it all in.
The Week Before Your Wedding
It’s the last run up to the wedding, so be organized!
Anything like stationary, music, gifts etc that can be done in advance – get them done! Keep yourself a storage box to add wedding bits to, keep them safe, dust free and ready to transport for the big day.
With regards to table plans, don’t panic if somebody can no longer come. In fact, most weddings have a last minute guest cancellation – which is annoying because you still have to pay for them and their name is all ready perfectly printed on your wedding plan. But let it go over your head, it’s just a name! Yes, you want everything to be perfect but worst case scenario, you now have a spare chair! If you do manage to find a last minute friend you can now invite to the wedding breakfast, then I’m sure they won’t mind being referred to a Aunty Flo for a couple of hours!
Write your list to keep your mind relaxed and organised and get checking it off so the last week is all minimal bits n bobs and enjoying a pamper.
The Night Before Your Wedding
Full swing celebrations are on! It’s the night before and there is nothing more you can do to change things. So, some time spent with the girls, relaxing and getting excited with them, unwinding and keeping the nerves at bay…but watch the bubbly! Hungover brides have happened when nerves have got the better, bubbly (or a nice gin) flow far too well and will always happen, a few tipples, a nice meal and beauty sleep.
Nails, lash extensions & tan should all be done by now – don’t leave it until the wedding day! It goes extremely fast and things like this need time and patience you don’t want to be running around frantic over patchy tan on your wedding morning or messing with stick on nails.
Try and sleep. Keep a pen and paper at the side of your bed, then anything on your mind you can jot down and relax your mind.
The Wedding Morning
Wedding Hair & Makeup
The morning will go fast! Before you know it, you’re putting on your dress, the registrar is arriving and your bridesmaids are running around you like loonies.
A hair and makeup artist can really take the pressure off – this is where i come in and i always get asked how i stay so calm, or thanks for keeping a bride calm. The blessing of having an artist around is all you have to do is get up, get showered and then wait in your cute PJ’s for them to arrive. Remember, no bra straps or socks if you can see these areas when you’re dressed! You don’t want to have an ugly underwear line shown in a beautiful strapless gown! Also remember that your makeup artist will need pictures from your trial and/or inspiration pictures that you have found for you and your bridal party in advance.
If you are going DIY on your wedding morning then make sure you have done a couple of trial runs beforehand and make sure you start earlier than you think you will need to on the actual morning. Most brides want to be ready before they are due to go downstairs, but from experience, once you are ready you’ll relax more. If you’re ready early then you have time for changes if something’s not right.
Don’t forget you need time to get into your dress too so aim to be in your dress with half an hour to spare. It will allow you time to take everything in, get pictures and see the registra… or it will give you a half our reserve if everything goes sideways and you wish you had more time!
DIY brides might want to check out the HJ Youtube Channel for beauty hacks and tutorials. OR the online hair up training sites which has varied lessons for how to do hair up step by step. You can drop me a message if there is a specific style you want to learn and i can work on this for you…
Your photographer quite often takes pictures of your gown, accessories and anything else special you have bought. So it’s good to have everything together and ready before he/she arrives.
Speak to your photographer and check if they like to shoot any staged pictures where you might have to pause preparations midway, or if they need you ready early to take pictures before you leave. All this takes time, so factor this in. Your makeup artist can leave cheeks, lips and fitting your hair accessory until the photographer is ready, so your utilizing the time well.
When the photographer has finished taking pictures of your gown hung up, if you have a corset back it is wise to ask someone to get it un-laced and ready to be put on whilst you finish off doing your make up. Long corsets can take a while to undo and will save you time later. WARNING: whoever does this make sure they have clean hands and nails. Ideally you need someone with acrylic, gel or shellac nails – like makeup and grime, nail varnish will also leaves marks!
Wedding Party Pains
I quite often hear of wedding party members causing havoc. If it’s hairstyles they’re unhappy with, then leave it to the hairdresser – maybe give her a heads up that someone’s quite particular about their look, but we’re used to it.
If it’s arguments over table plans, aka. Someone can’t be in the same room as someone else, in fact anything where they turn into a tantrum toddler – then let them deal with it and keep your self well clear. If they can’t behave like a grown up, then why are you paying £50+ per head to have them there? A wise wedding supplier once told me “you have to be a little bit selfish on your wedding day because this day is for you, not them”.
Do i hear tantrums? Yes our children are gorgeous but we all know they like to play up for mum & dad. Even some of the most adorable might start to play up when they feel something is going on or different. So organise someone to look after them, possibly take them to the park, burn off some steam, take a nap if they need one and be fed and watered before arriving with you ready to be dressed and leave. They easily get bored and tired with your relaxed wedding preparations so enjoy your ‘you’ time.
Make sure your groomsmen and bridesmaids have all had fittings and tried everything on in advance! Short trousers, jackets that won’t fasten and bridesmaids in poorly fitting gowns are a wedding day nightmare. Be prepared and try them on – you’ll have time to change things and delegate a runner to the nearest outlet if not all has gone to plan. You personally don’t need that extra stress on your wedding morning, especially if your wedding venue is far away!
There is absolutely nothing you can do about Mother Nature – so plan for it. If you’ve a lot going on outside, then it’s good to purchase some cute wellies or boots just in case, also umbrellas and gazebos to keep you dry. Even think about hair and makeup. If your hair doesn’t like to curl and you are going for a hair down look with the risk of rain, it will drop a lot. If your hair doesn’t like humidity, you don’t want to end up looking like Monica Geller from Friends, so plan wisely!
I have had so many brides worry and stress about the rain and really there is nothing you can do about it. Looking back on your wedding day thinking you spent your morning worrying about the rain might be a funny story later on, but don’t stress, just go with it. The majority of the time the clouds part and the sun appears as you step outside, but there is nothing you can do about a storm so don’t sweat it! Photographers are used to it all and will have tricks to get perfect pictures, hair and makeup can be waterproof/water resistant – your suppliers have been dealing with things like this for years, so relax!
You’ve picked all your suppliers because you loved something about them and they are experienced. You’ve given them your vision in the meetings up to the wedding, so now is the time to just trust them.
If you get really worried, then wait until they’ve finished to see what they’ve done and them comment – sometimes the coming together doesn’t look quite right but the finished sight will be your vision again.
This is with the exception of hair – for me if you need extra adding, more height, or hair left out, then it really is best to know before you are glued into place for perfection. But for this reason I dress your hair in front of a mirror and then you can give the instructions as we go.
Relax, don’t over think and go with the flow of the wedding celebrations – hair and makeup, pictures, video, flowers arriving, getting ready, speaking to the registrar etc. It’s a whirlwind of a day so cherish EVERY moment without stress. Everyone will have some sort of anxiety butterflies as you put on your dress ready to walk down the aisle – just remember’ to enjoy every moment. There really is nothing to worry about, it’s just a massive party for YOU!
Give us a comment and share any stresses you might have had or are worried about… x
What kind of bride are you?
Here’s some inspiration to help you find your wedding style!
Finding your wedding style within the bridal world can be tricky for some. We all love imagery and shopping with our eyes, but the rules can change when it come to being head to toe in a full on bridal gown and corsetry. Shopping as you know it doesn’t quite work when you come to try on the ‘perfect gown’ and its can all be a bit of an anti climax! My advice, get to a boutique and try these gowns on. Ive met brides that want a lace gown with possibly a little detail who have left in head to toe sparkle and vice versa – my point is, your everyday style browsing through a wedding mag doesn’t cut it this time because i guess it just doesn’t feel special enough?
As well as a hairstylist and makeup artist i also work along side a 5* bridal boutique Dream Dress Bridal and a stunning jewellery company Stella & Dot, i love the styling side of my work so i’ve put this together to help you piece your perfect wedding style together… Hopefully it helps but get your comments below, give your advice and let us know if love any of the styles!
The Princess; A Ronald Joyce princess gown (this has a detachable flower) it has an amazing corset and encrusted sweetheart neckline, the waistline plunges to make it even more slimming! I’ve teamed this with a Richard Design Central tiara and Stella & Dot’s Vintage Crystal Necklace , Deco Drop Earring & Vintage Crystal Bracelet. The Crystal Necklace works great in multiples too!
The Dramatic; A Tulle fishtail gown (that the boutique also has in very similar with straps) this gown is super dramatic and sexy, the corsetry is amazing in this and shows curves off amazingly well! I’ve teamed this with Stella & Dot’s Casablanca Chandelier Earrings and matching Casablanca Bracelet… The Chandelier earrings are so versatile with 3 looks in one – check them out on the Stella & Dot site to see the alternative images! Plus a hair comb from Richard Designs for the hair, heavy but small to work well with the statement jewellery. Need MORE sparkle? This Mori Lee gown also looks great with a blingy belt!
The Boho Babe; This has just come in to the boutique and i absolutely love it! Layered lace and super drapey its a perfect boho brides gown. I’ve teamed this one with Stella & Dot’s gorgeous Zinnia Split Ring, Becca Bracelet – both come in an alternative if you are not a green girl and Reverie Chandelier Earrings. Then a headband from Richard Designs with accents of gold to pick out the jewellery and beading on the gown – wear as a headband or across the forehead.. OR add flowers?
Which are you? If you would like to see more inspiration give us a comment below and we’ll create your mood board…
For headpieces & gowns check out Dream Dress Bridal in Stockport
If you love glitz & glam of the golden age then this is for you ! Key vintage hairstyles & makeup inspiration from way back when…
I was elated when Melanie from ‘Case of The Curious Bride’ recently contacted me to see if I’d be interested in conducting some real life makeovers with real life ladies. It was to be based on her new ‘White Threads’ collection, inspired by the Golden Age of Cinema, to bring you some vintage hair and makeup inspiration from the 1920’s, 1930’s, 1940’s and 1950’s.
Describing ‘vintage’ often refers to several eras spanning almost ten decades. So to decipher the years and their distinguished styles, can often be a task in itself. The 1940’s victory rolls, the super thin brows of the 1930’s and the finger waves of the 1920/30’s, are perhaps the most obvious approaches. But nowadays, it’s not uncommon for us girls to pinch our favourite parts of all the styles and combine the essentials to create a unclassified ‘vintage’ look.
Melanie’s shoot was set to be a great opportunity to get stuck into some good old fashion hair setting, whilst investing in lots of liquid liner and transforming my five gorgeous girls into vintage dolls to demonstrate the eras apart and combined.
My first willing victim was the lovely Sarah, representing the 1950’s bride. Sarah had the traditional setting put into her hair showing a mixture of pin & barrel curls. Her eye makeup was mushroom browns tipped with classic ivory, then strong liner to define the eyes, lashes gently accentuated with a light mascara and then her 1950s wedding makeup was finished off with a fabulous red bow pout, perfect for the era!
As Sarah disappeared behind the scenes to slip into her wedding gown complemented by handmade vintage accessories crafted by Ivory Tuesday, model number two, Laura took a seat.
Laura was my 1940’s Rita Hayworth inspired and stunning bride to be. It was important that I kept all of Laura’s vintage makeup delicate, with a soft smudged brown liner, a smidge of black pushed into the top lash line and some subtle lashes to set it off. I contrasted the gentleness of the overall look with a vibrant coral lippy and gradual waves – of course including the signature 40s quiff in her hair.
Seema was to be my irresistible late 1940’s rockabilly bride. Using warmer shades of brown on the eyes and a gorgeous pout with an Illamasqua matt lipstick, I added lots of black liner and lashes to supplement the late and post war era.
Our models loved the hair whizzing up for this one. Seema had SO MUCH hair, at one point, I never thought I’d see the end of it! I added some loose curls to the back section of her hair and then back combed through to the front as the curls cooled. Two pinned victory rolls at the front followed by the cute curls at the back, made the perfect 1940’s vintage hairstyle. Whilst Seema changed into her outfit, I made a quick dash to make a last minute additional fix to our first bride Sarah with a hair accessory from Ivory Tuesday – handmade headpieces by Melanie herself!
After finalising Seema’s 1940’s kiss pout with a quick powder to finish the matte look, I moved on over to my fourth stunning model, Sally
Sally was to demonstrate my 1930’s bridal look. The signature look of the era is a much thinner and more arched brow from the previous looks, with all warm natural tones to enhance her gorgeous bone structure.
Looking at Sally now you wouldn’t believe that her hair is currently cut in an ultra modern ‘short back and sides’ style, something that I knew was not typical of the vintage era. To overcome this, I decided to go for a change from the marcel waving, instead opting for an ‘I love Lucy’ inspired hair up. I curled her hair with a WAM curling iron to ensure it was super tight, then I fluffed it up and slicked back the sides for a much workable and edgy look that was ideal for Sally’s quirky personality.
Last but not least, my 1920’s inspired bride, was the crazy gorgeous Sian who was an absolute hoot to work alongside! The popular Gatsby look is typically defined by incredibly pale skin, so I applied the eye makeup first using a Illamasqua gel liner and black pigment to smoke it up and soften the edges without drop down onto the foundation. I then used airbase foundation with a soft coral cheek to highlight the style whilst leaving her statement dark eye makeup and wild finger wave hair to do the talking.
Each of the looks seemed to work exceptionally well for the models and seemed to bizarrely suit their personalities so well!
John Boy Wilson was our photographer for the day who used both an indoor and outdoor set up for this photo-shoot. I was pleased with how the day had panned out, covering several eras over five models. Even some of the Sale community were congratulating our brides outside in their vintage attire!
Thanks to John, Mel and my five best girls for lending me their beautiful faces through the eras.
I was very excited and privileged to be asked to join the creative team for not one BUT two inspiration shoots!
Zenna of Zen Photographic a Cheshire based photographer, put together a 1950s wedding inspired look and a full on boho wedding in the grounds of Nunsmere Hall.
So, i arrived to set up with the help of my lovely other half (who tagged along for a nosey on what i normally get up to – proof that i don’t just sit around playing dress up all day!) to a room already well underway being dressed with wedding china, cakes from Beth and a mini champagne fountain – something i’d love for my wedding day but yet to find a supplier that does it!?!
We quickly brought all my kit in and we’re shown to a huge room to get hair and makeup started for my two models Heather & Beth: To the starting line! Armed with curling irons, hairspray; i feel should only be called lacquer on a 50’s shoot and hair pins – we’re off! Heather, my first model, also a ‘Solo Wartime Singer’ had an extreme sexy 50’s look using matt chocolate tones, sleek MAC fluid line eyeliner and pillow-box red pout 🙂
Heather disappeared with a rather dapper Ben, in suits also supplied from Angie at Puure Bridal to a 50’s styled room down the hall, with a champagne fountain, lace & pearl cake by the extremely talented Cakes by Beth along with styling, stationary, flowers AND vintage china – the room left us with mouths open, wishing it was our big day!
Dashing back up the hall, after the all clear from the team that the first ‘husband & wife’ were ready to rock n roll; my next model Beth sat waiting with a mane of gorgeous blonde hair ready for an old 50’s style undo and more liner..
Beth had some pre-wedding shots done so we left some of her hair pinned in at first, for some 50’s roller shots but we did get some makeup on first with a more smokey 50s inspired eye makeup, some warm copper tones on the lid to soften the whole look but lots of black to keep it dramatic and in keeping with the 50s era and a more neutral lippy.
TIP: Its will make your wedding morning run much smoother asking you makeup artist or hairdresser to wait to do final touches so your photographer can get these important pre-wed shots – only of course if its important to you!
I’ve often worked with people that like to do set up images – if you have a large party or minimal time – save some lipstick and blusher and have it applied when your photographer is ready for better time management
Flowers again were supplied by the fab Living Colour Flowers (you can see more of her work here too) and the ladies at Fabric looked after the styling on the day armed with various vintage props to dress the rooms…
The Ben, now on his second wedding – cheeky! Jumped in to the gorgeous vintage car supplied by Platinum Wedding Cars for some pictures with Beth. A fantastic way to wrap up the 50s wedding!
Get in touch and let us know about your wedding and don’t forget to leave your comments and tips below!